Your only job was to trust them. You had no choice. Their job was to feed you, clothe you, keep you safe and teach you how to live. All the core values that shape your 'self,' were neurally sculpted in your grey matter in the formative years of your childhood, based on genetic predisposition and external experience (nature/nurture).But if your primary providers did not have the skills to adequately impart those core values, due to untreated mental illness, behavioral and chemical addictions and/or their own acknowledged and untreated past trauma, your brain may have become neurally hard-wired to subconsciously rely on beliefs, thoughts, emotions and behaviors that severely impaired childhood mood and functioning, resulting in maladaptive and severely self-sabotaging behaviors in adulthood.
Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) is a condition that results from chronic or long-term exposure to emotional trauma over which a victim has little or no control and from which there is little or no hope of escape, such as in cases of:
* domestic emotional, physical or sexual abuse
* childhood emotional, physical or sexual abuse, entrapment or kidnapping.
* slavery or enforced labor.
* long term imprisonment and torture
* repeated violations of personal boundaries.
* long-term objectification.
* exposure to gaslighting and false accusations
* long-term exposure to inconsistent, push-pull, splitting or alternating raging and
and hoovering behaviors.
* long-term taking care of mentally ill or chronically sick family members.
* long term exposure to crisis conditions. LINK: OUT of the FOG
Complex PTSD differs from many forms of PTSD because it is not necessarily based on one specific episode of trauma (car accident, rape/assault, combat experience, etc) but on a cluster of traumatic events over a "long-term" period of time and any events repeatedly experienced over time can become subconsciously hard-wired (like driving a car, which requires little, if any, conscious thought) often resulting in impulsive reactive behaviors in which you cannot identify why you behaved as you did, but how you behaved causes chronic guilt, regret and remorse.
The violent communication you experienced in childhood, day after day, month after month, year after year (often coupled with other forms of neglect and abuse) has hard-wired specific neuro-circuits in your brain to direct current behavior in ways that can promote a living hell and when your brain functioning evokes psycho-emotional chaos, adult attachments become insecure, disorganized and wildly unstable, subsequently, promoting a negative, self replicating feedback loop of erratic thought-emotion-behavior reinforced by chronic habituation.
Psycho-Emotive Fragmentation eludes correction and healing because deep seated insecurities remain unacknowledged or denied. One who is psycho-emotionally fragmented denies that his/her inner world is in pieces and, hence, engages the external world from inner wounds which filters sensory perception based on maladaptive neural pathways. This orientation to reality places the burden of happiness on others, resulting in a string of failed relationships, because there is no other person in the entire world who is, or could ever be, responsible for your inner feelings and, hence, your happiness. Fragmented states that deny personal insecurities from childhood, filter out truth by relying on the false belief that inner states are dependent on other people, which defies the laws of physics.
Psycho-Emotive Wholeness fully acknowledges insecurities, based on childhood wounds, and actively engages the process of recovery which, subsequently, enlists brain changes through neuroplasticity (neuroplasticity: the way out of hell). This path places the burden of seeking happiness upon oneself in the ultimate realization that no other person is, or ever could be, responsible for your happiness. Such recognition results in neuroplastic brain changes over time that allows for a sense of personal freedom through personal responsibility and ultimately engages stable, loving relationships based on trust and security.
COMPLEX PTSD DEFINED
Psycho-Emotive Fragmentation eludes correction and healing because deep seated insecurities remain unacknowledged or denied. One who is psycho-emotionally fragmented denies that his/her inner world is in pieces and, hence, engages the external world from inner wounds which filters sensory perception based on maladaptive neural pathways. This orientation to reality places the burden of happiness on others, resulting in a string of failed relationships, because there is no other person in the entire world who is, or could ever be, responsible for your inner feelings and, hence, your happiness. Fragmented states that deny personal insecurities from childhood, filter out truth by relying on the false belief that inner states are dependent on other people, which defies the laws of physics.
Psycho-Emotive Wholeness fully acknowledges insecurities, based on childhood wounds, and actively engages the process of recovery which, subsequently, enlists brain changes through neuroplasticity (neuroplasticity: the way out of hell). This path places the burden of seeking happiness upon oneself in the ultimate realization that no other person is, or ever could be, responsible for your happiness. Such recognition results in neuroplastic brain changes over time that allows for a sense of personal freedom through personal responsibility and ultimately engages stable, loving relationships based on trust and security.
OVERCOMING CHILDHOOD
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