Living a Life Based on What You Think They Think You should Think...

If your life is about them, you will most likely be miserable, simply because you failed to learn and incorporate the most basic truth of all time

Not one person in a world of 7 billion people can, or will, ever make you happy and any attempt to seek happiness from any one of them is literally doomed to failure.

Yet, how many people will you go through before realizing this and reconfiguring your brain to engage your life based on this one absolute truth.

Living a life based on what you think they think you should think (and do) is inauthentic and disingenuous. If you fail to identify it soon enough, years of self denial will eventually take its toll.

When will you begin the process of recombining your own fragmented pieces into a wholeness that is attractive to others, simply because it does NOT rely on others and it is wholly 100% YOU?

Fragmented people, who not only fail to master their insecurities but refuse even to acknowledge that they have insecurities, require validation from others, demanding their life projects and goals be determined by the assumed expectations of others, thereby, unconsciously obstructing their own personal creativity and demanding that what they create, develop, enjoy, find fulfillment through, etc, conform to what they think others think they should think, leading to vacuous behaviors that become a lifetime burden.

Conforming your life to what you think others think you should think in relation to your life choices, is patently absurd and logically doomed from the start, but you do it every day and your depressed, despondent state is testament to this practice and the deep inner sense of knowing it is destined to fail, simply because it does not reflect who YOU are.

You can't know what others think you should think (unless they specifically tell you) and, therefore, making profound life choices based on what you think others think you should think will result in your being dead wrong 99 percent of the time (1% attributed to luck).

SIGNS OF A FRAGMENTED SELF:

1) You fear being alone

2) You take inordinate amounts of time to make basic decisions and often fail to act at all.

3) You consistently change your decisions from self-doubt and decide based on the opinions of others

4) You require constant affirmation from others

5) You experience dread after making a decision

6) You lack any desire to seek insight into your thoughts/feelings/behaviors

SIGNS OF A WHOLE SELF

1) Solitude is valued as a time for processing and reflection

2) You make decisions based on rational periods of deliberation leading to action.

3) Any changes in decision are based on new information and not self doubt

4) You consider advice from others, but recognize the decision is yours.

5) Once a decision is made and action is performed, you confidently await feedback as a means of applying adjustments and alterations to the decision

6) Every success and every failure is recognized as a need to learn more about yourself

The significant others in your life are certainly an important part of your life, but to make them the entirety of your world is to unconsciously become slave to their demands, demanding you surrender your goals and desires, until one day you discover an emptiness in you that can no longer be fulfilled.

You Are What You Love, Not What Loves You